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Help for Lonely Men...

Lonely Men are everywhere...

He turns a desert into pools of water, a parched land into springs of water. And there he lets the hungry dwell, and they establish a city to live in; they sow fields and plant vineyards and get a fruitful yield. God's response to lonely, hungry people, Psalm 107

Dr. Richard S. Schwartz, a Cambridge psychiatrist who has studied the problem of loneliness in America, notes that over four decades of studies have shown the devastating conse-quences of loneliness. Loneliness has been linked to an increased risk of cardiovascular disease and stroke and the progression of Alzheimer's. One study found that it can be as much of a long-term risk factor as smoking. In 2015, a huge study using data from 3.5 million people collected over 35 years, found that those who fall into the categories of loneliness, isolation, or even simply living on their own see their risk of premature death rise 26 to 32 percent.

But Schwartz also concludes that many people have a hard time admitting that they are lonely. He says, "Admitting you're lonely feels very much like admitting you're a loser. Psychiatry has worked hard to de-stigmatize things like depression, and to a large part it has been successful. People are comfortable saying they're depressed. But they're not comfortable saying they're lonely, because you're the kid sitting alone in the cafeteria." **  

We have answers for lonely men at Vineyard ABQ:

1.  Personal discipleship -- we have two groups of men meeting each week for personal discipleship led by our pastor Perry Floyd.  You are welcome to join either of these groups (Thurs 6:30 am, Sun 8:45 am). Contact PFloyd at

2.  Summer Men's Study:  each Friday morning at VCABQ (4616 2nd St NW) from 6 to 7 am.  Beginning this Friday, June 21, we study through  "Lies Men Believe" by Robert Wolgemuth.  Coffee / pastries provided.Get the book on or come and use the provided outlines.

3.  Men's Breakfasts:  each 6 weeks we gather for food, testimonies and encouragement for men.  These are good opportunities to meet men who struggle with the same things, make time for each other, and encourage each other to grow in Christ as part of a Band of Brothers.   See website for our next bfast:

** Adapted from Billy Baker, "The Biggest Threat Facing Middle-Aged Men Isn't Smoking Or Obesity. It's Loneliness." Boston Globe (3/9/2017)

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